I have had more than enough reasons to give a more cursory look at Relationships and those involved. My findings are quite interesting. Most of what I have found out tends to negate most of what I grew up gleaning from the society in which I was. Below are some thoughts to consider in the quest for that long lasting and joyous relationship.
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Relationships: There is perhaps no other word loaded in the English language with so many meanings, emotions, opinions, fears, heartbreak, or joy. If you’ve ever had the privilege of experiencing great love, you know first-hand the power it has to transform virtually every facet of your life. Extraordinary relationships are not the result of good luck, great chemistry, or convenience. Rather, there are laws of love—skills we need to hone, practice, and apply—which determine the amount of fulfillment we experience in our intimate lives.
1. The Discipline of Putting Your Lover First: It’s not about you! Put your lover’s feelings and needs first. When you are feeling pain you are focused on yourself.
2. The Discipline of Loving No Matter What: The Power of Love, Adoration, & Praise Withholding your gift is the only source of pain. With real love, you love through pain, joy, fear. Love penetrates all.
3. The Discipline of Being Yourself: Emanate & Express Your Natural Essence & True Core. You can’t align with someone if you’re not being yourself or if you’re trying to be what you think they want. You have to tell the truth! Playing small never serves.
4. The Discipline of Positive Intent: Eliminate Threats & Judgment & Remember The Power of Language Never make your partner wrong. Know their soul.
5. The Discipline of Freedom: The Power of Forgiving, Forgetting, & Flooding Pain can only be found in yesterday’s sorrows or tomorrow’s concerns. Flood yourself now with the beauty and magic of your life!
6. The Discipline of Daily Intimacy: Full Engagement — Open Your Heart & Hold Nothing Back. Play wildly, courageously, tenderly, and intensely. Fear and hurt imprison the heart. Do the opposite of what they tell you and passion will re-ignite.
7. The Discipline of Polarity: The Power of Dancing Energies Feel, understand, and appreciate what your partner needs and serve them now. Be her mountain. Presence is a state where nothing shakes you. Be his joy. Playfulness is the gift of life. Give your gift.
8. The Discipline of Loving Truth: The Power of Vulnerability. Give the gift of heartfelt honesty and commit to expressing it openly in this moment.
9. The Discipline of Utilisation: The Power of Higher Meaning & Constant Growth. Find the good and beauty in everything and use it to expand your love.
10. The Discipline of Gratitude & Giving: Appreciation is the Power to Experiencing life’s greatest blessings now.
Excerpts from Anthony Robbins’ Ultimate Relationship Programme
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